7.20【晚8点红包】你会如何让孩子在日常生活中学会独立？
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这个问题比较复杂，学会独立是一个漫长的过程，从生活小事开始，比如洗碗，让出去买酱油醋 我会在日常生活中学会放手。让孩子在生活中。事情自己做。不包办，不包揽。让孩子做他自己。只是协作，而不是包揽 自己的事自己做，小事自己做主，做不了的和家长商量。 日常生活培养孩子独立，不用讲大道理，落实到每天小事就行一、把适合年龄的家务交给孩子（从小事动手）
35岁：自己穿脱衣服、穿鞋、收拾玩具、把碗筷放到厨房、擦自己桌面
68岁：整理书包、叠衣服、浇花、摆碗筷、收拾自己书桌、洗袜子
9岁以上：洗简单餐具、整理房间、准备第二天上学物品、简单热饭菜
原则：不是帮家长干活，是管好属于“自己的事”，做完不要每次给钱奖励，多肯定他“自己能做好”。
二、遇事尽量先让孩子自己想办法，别急着帮忙
- 孩子穿不好、东西找不到、题目不会、和小伙伴闹矛盾
先说一句：“你先想一想，有没有什么办法？”
等他尝试一遍实在不行，再适度提示，不要直接上手替他做完。
少讲：“我来，你不行”
多讲：“试试看，做错也没关系”
三、给选择权，让孩子学会承担小后果
日常多给二选一的小决定，培养判断力：
“今天出门穿蓝色外套还是黑色？”
“先写作业，还是先吃水果？”
允许做出不太完美的选择，并承担小小的自然结果：
比如磨蹭晚睡，第二天起床犯困；玩具不收好，玩的时候找不到，家长不要事后不停指责，让他体会自己选择带来的结果。
四、学会适当放手，允许做得慢、做得不好
很多时候不是孩子不会，是大人嫌慢、嫌做的不干净，直接代劳。
孩子第一次叠被子歪歪扭扭，书包收拾得乱糟糟，先不批评，示范一次正确做法，鼓励下次改进，不要直接拆开重新给他收拾。
五、建立固定日常作息，让他自主执行
固定起床、洗漱、写作业、睡觉时间，慢慢由家长提醒→变成闹钟提醒→孩子自觉完成。
可以贴一张简单每日任务清单，让孩子自己打勾，慢慢形成自律习惯。
六、把握边界：独立≠放任不管
独立不是完全不管孩子。
遇到危险、重大选择时家长把关；生活小事、日常琐事，大胆放手让他练习。
简单4句日常话术，平时可以多用
1.“这件事，交给你来安排。”
2.“你打算怎么解决？”
3.“没关系，这次没做好，下次再试试。”
4.“我相信你自己可以完成。”
正确引导自己的事情自己干 力所能及的事尽量自己解决 自己的事情自己做！只要是她力所能及的！都让她自己解决 小事让孩子自己做主慢慢培养孩子的独立思考能力。 正确引导建立自信心，想办法解决自己能办到的事